5 Reasons to Fall in Love with Venus Conjunct Neptune in Pisces

Hey everyone, this is Adam Elenbaas from Nightlight Astrology, and today we're going to take a look at this week's Venus Neptune conjunction in the sign of Pisces. Now, this is a Venus Neptune conjunction that's actually happening right around Valentine's Day. So if you're someone who likes to celebrate Valentine's Day or you have a reason to celebrate Valentine's Day, then maybe this will hit home and be a little bit, you know, extra special love transit for the week of Valentine's Day here. But you know, a lot of people don't really care about Valentine's Day, or worse, you just can't stand it.

So certainly don't have to listen to this as a Valentine's Day special. But it's still regardless of Valentine's Day being this week, which kind of it is kind of cool that those two things are sinking up if you are celebrating, but regardless, Venus Neptune will be conjoining this week, and it's a major transit, especially with Venus exalted in the sign of Pisces. So that's what we're going to take a look at today. I apologize. My camera quality is lower than usual. I forgot to plug my camera in last night after I recorded yesterday. So once in a while, I space, and then it, you know, takes a few hours. And this is the only time I have to record today. So it's like, well, I guess this is how it's gonna go.

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Okay, let's take a look at the real-time clock and just get a feel for the transit itself that we're looking at because we know the drill. So with this transit, I think one of the most important things to note is that this transit is going to hit differently very differently for different people. But I thought I would make this fun today and kind of more on the uplifting side. I will mention some shadows as we go along. But I kind of I titled this talk, you know, five, five reasons to fall in love with Venus and Neptune. And I think that because I think that there are good reasons to really love this transit.

It's one of my favorite transits every time it comes around. I have noticed sometimes it's not like everything is just roses turning up roses, but you know; it's a beautiful transit that most people subjectively seem to really enjoy. Or, at the very least, find themselves, you know, amused by because of how loud it can be. It will really show up.

Here is Venus and Neptune conjoining in the sign of Pisces. I have it set on Valentine's Day, so you can see how close they are on Valentine's Day. The actual conjunction will come through on the 15th Wednesday, February 15. But at the beginning of this week, they start off in an engagement within three degrees. So February 12, you can see it 13. It's coming closer. 14th Valentine's Day It's one degree off and should make for a pretty interesting Valentine's Day for a lot of people, even if it only amplifies the degree to which you have unfulfilled yearnings. Unfortunately, that's such a Venus Neptune dynamic anyway, but sorry. Oh god, I just, up until I was married, I always hated Valentine's Day. Now, it's just like a good excuse to have a date night. Anyway.

So, Venus Neptune will then separate, and you have about three degrees of separation all the way through February 18, which is, you know, right, taking us really through the end of this moon cycle. Why that's important because, remember, this moon cycle that we're in right now started; if we go back, I want to go, I'm just gonna go back in time, this moon cycle began. Here you can see there are the two planets coming together, the Sun and Moon forming the new moon. The cycle began, I should say, as Venus and Saturn were coming together in a conjunction. So the fact that we are ending this moon cycle with Venus conjoining. Neptune also shows in a sense that the cycle has taken us on a journey with regard to Venusian things from a harder, more abstract kind of place.

Both more concrete, ideal mental rational, and maybe even working with limits or disappointments. In the opening of the cycle with a Venus Saturn conjunction, there's a lot that can be said about that, but just kind of trying to put some words to it. And then Venus goes into Pisces and sort of ends the cycle with a conjunction to Neptune.

This lunar cycle, you know, has been a real Venusian journey. And that's one of the big things we've been talking about in my Roots and Spheres program, as we've also been dieting Damiana, which is a plant that is known as an aphrodisiac. And it's been the plant that we've been working with for the month.

So that gives you just a feel for the kinds of the, that gives you a feel for the astrology of it. So it's coming through on Wednesday, but you have really all the way till Saturday; you could feel it at the start of this week. So that's what to watch for. I try to make these, by the way; if you haven't noticed, I try to make these videos, always evergreen in the sense that if you ever just wanted to learn about Neptune and Venus, you could learn about that through this video as much as you could be learning about this week's specific astrology.

I hope that students of astrology will take advantage, go back to the archives, look at any of the videos that I do about aspects between planets, and you'll find that it should be able to enhance your understanding of how to read that combination in birth charts or in any aspect whenever it comes through. A lot of what I do is just about the archetypal combination of planets. The conjunction is a very; it has that kind of melded ecstasy feeling behind it, though. So it's, it's a very specific kind of energy.

Anyway, let's go through five reasons that I think you are safe to fall in love with this transit if you want to. Now I will mention some things that you know, like, Not everyone who listens to this is going to have like the world's greatest week of love or something, you know, so I don't want to set people up to feel like disappointed because it really depends on where things are at your birth chart what other major transits are happening in your birth chart and, you know, whether you're someone who you know, inherently sort of is open to Venus Neptune kinds of things, you know, or, you know, is just in a season in life right now, where that this transit will have, you know, a more of a personal impact and all of those things are they make talking about transits very challenging.

Regardless, you should be able to see at least one of these things come through, or if not, then some of the, maybe, the lessons that come along with these five reasons. I think it's safe to love Venus and Neptune. And I say that it's safe to love them because one of the most popular things that you will hear is people being like, Okay, this week don't drink the Kool-Aid, you know, beware of falling in love with an illusion and a mirage and you know, you're gonna get carried away, and I tend to think this kind of explanation whenever Neptune comes up is like, way overdone. So, I'm going to tell you five reasons why I think it's okay to fall in love with Venus Neptune this week.

Number one is the romance. This is a transit for romantics. And that doesn't mean that it has to be about romantic love. It certainly could be about romantic love, but I'm talking about romance as in the lens through which we see the world with devotion, love, fascination, or beauty. There's a way of looking at the world that is inherently appreciative. And by appreciative, I don't mean like, Oh, I just feel so much gratitude, like you could feel gratitude, that'd be part of it. But what I'm talking about is more like a sense of just appreciating the complexity and the beauty of life, the richness of life, the sort of the density of life and the beauty at the same time. And I say that because Venus Neptune has this very all-encompassing, overwhelming feeling to it, it has a feeling of multi-dimensional romantic appreciation.

So I think you can, just this week is a week where the romantic and slightly melancholic, let's be real. This transit in Venus exalted in Pisces, in general, can carry with it almost the feeling of yearning and dissatisfaction, which will be greatly amplified by the way when Saturn enters Pisces. I personally think that that kind of yearning and dissatisfaction coupled with romantic longing and a sort of romantic way of seeing the world is the kinds of qualities that generate good art, interesting, you know, interesting people in relationships, and I just don't think the world would be very interesting without that kind of yearning, dissatisfaction slash, you know, romanticism. So just appreciate the romantic quality of the week and try to notice, you know, you can go to an extreme, you can go on the side of getting sort of, like, you know, almost like a manic romantic impulsiveness, where you can also swing into the other side, which would be like maybe a dissatisfied, divine discontent and longing for something. It's fueled by desire and beauty, but it's restless and dissatisfied.

If you go too far in either direction, sort of manically optimistic and just infatuated. Or, you know, if you go in too far in the direction of sort of, like discontent, and nothing's ever good enough, but, you know, either extreme will probably, you know, would probably indicate that you're getting, you're getting sort of possessed in an unhealthy way I would imagine, although, you know, sometimes just who knows if what control we have anyway.

So, the romance, though, watch for enjoy, taste, the romance, whether it's that kind of melancholic, brooding, longing, quality, which is really, it's a beautiful thing to taste. I remember, you know, one of the things that really appealed to me when I got into the study of bhakti yoga was the sense that our longing for the divine should, at times, feel a little painful while also feeling so filled with desire, right? And that's a really good religious ecstatic sentiment, that we can express your experience for life itself.

You know, maybe we'll find ourselves sort of hopeless romantics this week. And I think that could be the most wonderful thing in the world, especially knowing that it's like, you have to, we have to remember that these are, these are like, you know, weather fronts, they're just moving through, and it's okay to just enjoy them. And to just be in them, they pass so quickly anyway. And, so, you know, don't always, like, tell people not to try to control it too much.

Number two is the redemption. One of the most amazing things about Venus Neptune is the way that things that were broken or torn apart can suddenly feel like they're being melded or yoked back together. So the feeling of something being redeemed or saved or healed, or helped or fixed, or resolved or mediated, or, you know, brought together in some gentle healing union.

So one of the features of Neptune conjoining Venus and Pisces is the feeling of something being redeemed. And you may notice this, that it could be a very simple thing, like, you could just feel like, you know, you're, had some rough edges with someone in your life. And this week, just in your heart, you suddenly feel like those rough edges are just melting away, and there's a sense of redemption, there's a feeling of letting go. And so the redeeming, healing, saving, releasing qualities, I'll just broadly refer to as the redemptive qualities of Venus and Neptune. And there's something that, you know, it's a very beautiful thing that most people when we have a Venus Neptune transit, if you've experienced this, you know, it's like, it's the equivalent of a rain shower when it's really just really hot and humid and gross. And you suddenly get this gentle breeze and a little cool rain, and everything just kind of releases. So I feel like that's one of the best upsides of the week. Of course, you can get a little dramatic; you can always try to be healing and saving and redeeming things that have some kind of, you know, some from some people, A sort of egoic, you know, or heroic fantasy.

Number three is the realism. Now this one sounds kind of strange, but one of the effects that Neptune has is to amplify the distinction between the imaginal and the sort of literal slash concrete, mundane or earthly, different ways of talking about the same kind of dichotomy. So, for example, sometimes people will say, Oh, Venus and Neptune, it'll fill you with all this romantic longing, but you have to be careful because it'll all be, you know, mirages, that will all be illusions or something like that.

One of the reasons I don't love that particular interpretation is that it's really more nuanced than that. So if Venus and Neptune fills you with a longing, a dream, and desire or wish, a fantasy, pay close attention to the nature of that fantasy, and usually what you'll find is that within it, there's a message about something that you've you you don't like, or you're not quite satisfied with. And regardless of whether you act on the fantasy or not, in other words, the fantasy can be really informative when it comes to understanding what's working and what isn't.

I mean, how many times, in other words, do you have a fantasy, a vision, a hope, a dream, a desire, that you become infatuated with, and you realize that that's, it's arising within you because something else isn't working, or you're dissatisfied with something. So if you, before acting on the impulse of the fantasy, if you can take the fantasy as a kind of message from the soul about what you do or don't like or what is or isn't working, then the fantasy has the ability to be very practically informative, and very realistic, I find that the things that I dream and yearn for are usually, like, if I sit with them a little bit, in other words, they'll tell me exactly why I'm longing for something or why I'm dreaming or fantasizing about something.

Okay, that's really instructive, you know, and then maybe I do or don't act on that fantasy, or impulse or wish, or hope, or whatever. But a lot of the times, before I can move toward that, I can just take that sort of practical wisdom that the fantasy is coupled to, and I can use it to start making changes that then, you know, take me incrementally closer toward, you know, a new set of a new vision or a new set of desires or hopes.

So I think that one of the things that Neptune does, in general, is it sort of amplifies the distinction between the way things are and the way things the way that we wish things would be. That distinction itself, if you look at it, not just as the fantasy, but as the distinction between the way something is and the way you wish it is, wish it was, and you sort of work with that, again, it can be just really, really helpful. And in that sense, I find that Neptune transits are often not talked about enough as transits of tremendous realism. There's nothing that puts you in touch closer with the real than a fantasy because it's not that a fantasy isn't real, either.

It's what I'm trying to say is that fantasies always exist in relation to what is, you know, or what what what, you know, the current state of things compared to some desired state of things, and that juxtaposition is, to my mind, one of the most overlooked elements of Neptune. Neptune, for example, in charts, when Neptune hits Venus in a person's birth chart, I will find that they will often become, you know, tremendously more aware of exactly what is wrong or not working in their marriage. And, but that also comes while they may yearn or long or hope or wish for something more or something better.

Now, if they can, if a client can, if I can help them just kind of say, you know, don't get totally swept up in all of this fantasy that maybe that includes the desire to, you know, have an affair or something like that before you go and act on that. This fantasy is also informing you about what's not working in your marriage, which, you know, maybe you should discuss with your spouse or your significant other or whatever.

Then if you do, it's amazing how the marriage will move toward that ideal. Or, if the marriage can't move toward that ideal, you'll be closer to the dissolution of what isn't working. So that fantasy, which is like a little seed that wants to grow, can take root and shape, but it almost never turns out. The fantasy is almost never the thing that will end up coming into being. It's the image of something that's desiring to grow and manifest. But, you know, the ways that it appears to us or that we think it will appear in our minds are, in a sense, just like just a calling to let something take root if that makes sense. So, anyway, I think that there's a tremendously realistic and practical side to Venus and Neptune that come along, sort of oddly, with the fantasies. I hope that makes sense.

Number four is the lack of reason. So we were eating the other day, and my wife was explaining why she really loved something that she was eating. And she was explaining it in terms of, like, how we see we both work with people like acupuncturists, Ayurvedic practitioners, blah, blah, blah. So she was talking about her constitution and how this food felt really good for her constitution and added on, and she was kind of like, you know, I just got to a point where I was like, Well, you know, it's also okay to just love the food that you're eating. You don't have to have, like, a constitutional reason. And, you know, and, you know, whatever. And she left, she looked at me, and she was like, Yeah, you're right. I'm I, yeah, I mean, it could be all of those things. But I can also just be like, I love this food. Oh, my God, I just love this food. And I don't need a reason for it.

And the only reason that I said that to her, I'm sure I sounded like I was like being pedantic or something. And I will I the only reason I said that is because one of the major breakthroughs that I had for myself in like the past year or two, as I've had some transits to my ascendant ruler, which has a lot to do with your health and your, your body and stuff like that, is in my third, my Jungian therapist that I see was really helpful with me, helping me with this to was to that you don't know what you don't need to have a reason for loving what you love, or for enjoying something that you enjoy.

So, of course, I'm just like, I'm just like, parroting something that I've learned. I'm like, you know, and, but at any rate, in this one moment, I happen to not come off, my wife agreed with me, and I happen to not come off like I was preaching at her, which is very easy to do for both of us, because we're both like, Oh, she's into herbs, I'm into astrology. So it's very easy for us to be like, oh, you should, you know, think this way, or take this or blah, blah, blah. But actually, I would say, after many years, we've gotten a lot better, like not coaching each other on stuff.

Anyway, I think that the point was that, you know, there, the point of that encounter that I thought was really cool was that, you know, my wife sort of realized it, and she was like, Yeah, you're right. Like, I don't; there's no need; there's no reason that I need to be really enjoying this food right now. Like, I was like, Yeah, I mean, that's such a big deal for me, too, like for I would say, like, my biggest example would be that when I was really involved in the religious community that I was a part of, more recently, the bhakti yoga world, which is a beautiful spiritual tradition, don't get me wrong.

One of the things that I would constantly be battling with was like, you know, all of the worldly stuff, the stuff that was more about, you know, just might like my body, like working out, or, you know, watching going to a basketball game, or, you know, just stuff that was kind of like, in the world. I was always working, there was like, a little meta thing going on, in my mind being like, trying to justify it, or like, you know, and one of the big breakthroughs for me was in being like, you know, I just love what I love. And there does not need to be a reason or an explanation or justification. And I think that's, you know, remember that Venus in pisces was naturally opposite Mercury and Virgo in terms of exultations. And so one of the recent things that was said about those two planets is that if you put mercury in the sign of Pisces doesn't do so well. It's in its fall.

Well, if you put Venus in the sign of mercury sign of Virgo, it's in its fall. So why is that? I said it's because the intellectual and the sensual have a natural kind of archetypal opposition to one another; it doesn't mean they can't be working together, either. It just means that they tend to be polarized.

So one thing that's really wonderful about Venus in pisces is that you can let go of your head; you can let go of thinking about things. And you can just love what you love. Which is again, I feel like, you know, that's, it's, it's a huge thing. It's just a thing that I see over and over again. And honestly, when people have Neptune Venus transits in their charts, too.

I feel like one of the things I end up repeating to people over and over and over again in those sessions is it's okay to just love what you love. And obviously, if it's unless it's harming you or whatever, but there are moments, in other words, where we are all just overthinking things, or we can't just turn the thing off in our head that has to make sure it's okay to feel good. You know, and just be like, I enjoy this. This tastes good; I love this. I like doing that; I like being with you. And does it need? No, it doesn't need a reason; I just feel it. Right?

So anyway, the lack of reason is a really nice feature of Venus and Neptune. I hope that makes sense. Realize as soon as I told the story, I was like, oh, man, that probably makes me seem like a real jerk to my wife. But, I feel like she, you can just tell when you're with someone, you can just tell when they're going into their head. And I have I really appreciate it when my wife helps me get out of my head too. So hopefully, that won't sound like I was being a dick.

Number five is the reciprocal; I end with this one. So the reciprocal? How can I put it? Well, I brought up the etymology. So let's look at the etymology to start with; that'll be a good place to start. I like this, which is from the Latin Reciprocus, which means returning the same way, returning the same way; that's a really, I mean, that little phrase is packed full of meaning. So I think that one of the things that we have there's a gospel in our culture of independence, be self-sufficient, be independent. And anything that is more dependent in nature tends to be called codependent, or it tends to be called, like, you know, like needy or something like that.

Let's imagine that life itself is relational, that the universe and reality itself, that its very nature, is relational. In which case, the ultimate relating, you could say, is the giving and giving and receiving of love. And that love can happen in a million different ways. It can express itself in a million different activities. And that's what's so beautiful about the life that we all share together is that there are so many ways of giving and receiving of appreciation, affection, interest; I'm using those words to also kind of point to love. But where Venus Neptune comes in, says, drop the hole. I'm an individual, sovereign, self-defining, you know, agent of change, like, you know, the heroic narrative where we're all monads, you know, walking up the hill with a cross on our back, and we're trying to individuate, and all this stuff is fine.

But consider Venus Neptune's message actually; you live in a relational universe in which reciprocity is the air we breathe, just a kind of fluid currents of exchange, and it's okay to be a dependent being rather than an independent being; it's okay to seek your identity in your relationships, not just thinking to yourself, Well, I'm there, somehow I'm deficient if I'm more of a relationship person, if I tend to feel more like myself when I'm with other people, that does not make you bad or deficient; it doesn't mean that you need to go do a sweat lodge somewhere with some group of people.

So I just encourage you to embrace the we-ness and reciprocal kind of fluid exchanging relational quality of Venus, Neptune, Venus, Neptune, invites us to be part of webs of relationships.

Okay, so those are my five reasons that I think you can fall in love with Venus Neptune. Now any of those reasons could also potentially be the source of someone's undoing, right? So that's what's so interesting about astrology, but sometimes you just have to tip the scales; sometimes you have to look at an archetype from the standpoint of the most hopeful, exciting redemptive themes.

And then, as you do, so you can kind of you can be aware of like, what's in the shadow, but it's kind of like, you know, the way that I would put it, it's like this when you look at archetypes, and you know, you know, like, let's say, you know, that they're like gods and they're gonna come visit your house. Well, if you had a friend coming to visit your house, would you sit down with your family and be like, alright, well, you know, we know that Sheila is super shitty, or she can be, you know, and we know that she likes to preach about this and that so, you know, hide the stuff that has the corn syrup, or like, whatever it is.

So it's like you, who would do that? You know, when she was coming over, and I don't know why the name Sheila came to me, I guess, just popped into my head. But so much love to all of you Sheila's out there. Anyway, you can be like, she's coming over, it's gonna be great. It's not that you're ignorant of the fact that you know Sheila has a shadow side, but you amplify and prepare for and invite the best of someone when they're coming over. And so I think it's important sometimes, especially with transits that people tend to look a gift horse in the mouth. It's like, how many times have I already been seeing people writing about Venus Neptune and be like, Okay, watch out for the drunkenness. You know, it's amazing to me how regularly Neptune transits get this reputation of being like, just you just can't trust them, you know?

So, I'm choosing to sort of say, Hey, here are some of the best reasons that we have to welcome this wonderful house guest over this week. And, you know, if, if Venus Neptune ends up, you know, walking around and making a mess in our, in our homes, you know, filling us with all sorts of unrealistic expectations and gaslighting us into believing that some other world is better than this one, or whatever, Fine, we'll deal with it. We'll deal with it when it happens. You know, but I'm inviting Sheila over, and we're gonna focus on the good stuff. All right, that's what I've got for today. Hope you guys are having a good one. I hope you'll enjoy this whether you are enjoying Valentine's Day or feeling salty, lonely, and annoyed by it. So that's it for today. We'll see you again tomorrow. Take it easy, everyone. Bye