Grabbed Episode 18: When our Enemies Become our Lovers

Hey everyone, this is Adam Elenbaas from Nightlight Astrology, and today we're going to share some of the stories that you guys have been sending in over the past couple of months. If you're new to the channel, these are called grabbed episodes, and you may hear me at the beginning of episodes or at the end of episodes, occasionally saying to use the hashtag #grabbed and tell us your story.

So one of the ancient names for the planets was grahas. In Indian astrology, which meant grabber, or the word had a double meaning, it could mean to be grabbed or seized, but it could also mean to grasp or to understand, and there's a teaching in that for us that the planets come into our lives and often seize our consciousness, they grab us, and we go, Oh my God.

If you're into astrology, you know what that's like, in the moment that something's happening, and you go, Oh, this, the planets are here, you can really tell. So this series has been dedicated to sharing the stories that you guys send in by using that hashtag #grabbed and then naming the transit and then telling us your story.

By sharing these stories, we learn so much about astrology; we learn about planetary combinations and the way they can show up in our lives, and more importantly, we remind ourselves why we do astrology and what we are here to gain or learn from having astrology in our lives. So these stories, sometimes I do them, you know, it's been a little while since I've done them. I think the last one we did was in May, maybe something like that. So when I share these, I go through the hundreds of stories that we receive, and I try to pick some that are unique and different and memorable, that illustrate different transits in really interesting ways, and that gives, I think, some sense of the, the humanity, you know, that we're all a part of and that these are stories that usually kind of remind me of, of like, why I'm here and why I'm doing this.

So anyway, I hope you will enjoy today's stories, and a lot of these are pretty crazy. We had some really intense astrology over the past few months. So some of these, this is like a heavier episode. There are some light moments for sure. These stories were almost unanimously pretty heavy. Saturn entering Pisces and Pluto entering Aquarius has stirred up a lot for people.

We had eclipses at the 29th degree of Aries and a lunar eclipse in Scorpio, and we had a big T square between Mars, Pluto, and Jupiter, and we had a bunch of Sun Uranus, Mars-Uranus dynamics. So I found that I think this is the 18th episode or something like that, and I think this is one of the heavier episodes, so I'll just give that as a little bit of a warning, but the stories are also very profound. So alright, let's get into it.

So these date back quite a ways, so some of them are older transits, and some of them are newer transits, but this one is Venus in a square with Saturn. Today my boss announced that once the candy in the hidden candy drawer has run out, there will be no more candy in our department because an unnamed individual has allegedly complained about the candy drawer.

Everyone is pissed and gossiping about each other to me about how they think the other person is so and so. I can't help but laugh at how silly This is. But there you have it, you have the almost like the withholding of pleasure or the complaint about candy which is, you know, just a really interesting manifestation.

Aries eclipse in the 10th house. I'm a Cancer rising, so this Aries Eclipse lands in my 10th house. A month ago, around the new moon. I started a new job at a cafe. The intention was to meet people and get to know the community while making extra income. I'm an astrologer in a new city. My work is rather lonesome, and I don't have much of a social network here yet. I thought of working at a coffee shop that might do me good even if I was overqualified.

Quickly, I realized this was absolutely not in alignment with my energy. I was overworked, underpaid, and feeling undervalued. I made my grievances known this past Friday, and on Monday, when I came into the shop, I was informed they were firing me as I was not a good fit.

No kidding. I wasn't a good fit. I felt so depleted and under-appreciated, and overworked that I was becoming so unhappy. I knew I wanted to quit as soon as I wasn't paid on time, but I didn't as I appreciated the extra income and told myself to give it one more month even though I dreaded the thought, so this solar eclipse offered a massive needed redirection back to my full-time path of astrology. Of course, I'd rather quit than when fired, but I laughed at the timing. So, an eclipse in the 10th house, the sixth spot on.

I think it's interesting how sometimes we need that little reminder that we can't fill our time with things that aren't essential to who we are and what we should be doing, and at other times, you know, might be that if you're building an astrology career, you need a part-time job, or you need to do something to help build the career, but it's interesting how those eclipses in the 10th house will just clarify the path we're on with respect to our career.

Here's a Scorpio Eclipse in the first house, place a body, place of mind, and self. Scorpio eclipse in the first house, I decided to start taking somatic exercise classes, and the first-month deals with getting better hip mobility nine times out of 10 whenever I have pain in my body; it typically stems from my hips. I'm hoping to get a release of emotion and tension. So a Scorpio lunar eclipse in the first house with coincides with taking somatic exercise classes and noticing that the first portion of this course that comes after the eclipse will focus on the hips where this person has a lot of tension, and they're hoping that this will lead to a release. That's such a great manifestation of a lunar eclipse in Scorpio in the first house; I'm going to take somatic exercise classes.

This one is very symbolic and strikes me as a good example of Scorpio Eclipse and a lot of the things that we saw around that time and that I saw in my clients' lives and so forth. I believe this set of events carries symbols related to the lunar eclipse in Scorpio, and this is happening on the day of the eclipse; I found a baby rabbit dead on my doorstep.

My older black cat Daisy hasn't hunted in years, not since we lived on the back of a large woods. These days. She sleeps most of the time, but last night, she seems to have decided to capture and kill a grey baby rabbit leaving it for me to see after compassionately disposing of the small body. I sat down for some coffee at my kitchen table, looking out the window in front of my garage about 10 feet away. There sits a large rabbit looking directly at me and drink my coffee and waiting for the uncomfortable feeling of shame and dirty secrets to hop away with the rabbit. But the rabbit doesn't leave it just sits there and stares at me.

Yeah. It's heavy and one of those events where you can feel that there's something has happened and what's happened is its own event, and yet it's speaking to something more, something deeper and something that we're maybe being invited to explore. I felt that a lot with the Scorpio eclipses that we had.

Here is Uranus conjoining the sun in Taurus, or I should say the sun conjoining Uranus in Taurus. I had a surprising diagnosis today. I've been trying to find out since last September what is wrong with my legs and knee. I was told I had arthritis and would simply need microsurgery to clean out my knee, but I changed doctors.

I did research to find the best surgeon, and my new doctor ordered an MRI and found a stress fracture. He has ordered a special brace that I will wear for eight weeks, and later I'll need a knee replacement. I was in shock and didn't see this coming, but it's good to finally get an accurate diagnosis. What's so amazing is that the sun when it hits, and it's one of the things we talked about on my channel was the way in which clarity, illumination, and understanding can come very rapidly, suddenly, unexpectedly, and here's a person who is basically getting an accurate diagnosis so yeah, that's really profound.

Jupiter entering Taurus. The last time Jupiter was in Taurus, I was getting married for the first time. This time as Jupiter comes back into Taurus. I am getting married again. Different husband. Taurus is in my fifth house. So sorry, I thought there was more, that's it, so yeah, so this person got married when Jupiter was in Taurus previously; I guess it was two times ago that Jupiter was in Taurus that they got married and then to Jupiter into Taurus cycles later they are getting married again, new husband.

So I think that it's super fascinating that there's a recurrence, so the fifth house is a place It was called The Joy of Venus and, among other things, is associated with romance and love. Fascinating. It's a nice one.

Jupiter in Taurus, as it moves into Taurus, is conjoining this person's Saturn in their fourth house of home and family, and I have charged a family member with sexual abuse, much to some of their family member's objection, and the outcome of this will be occurring any day now.

Which is fascinating because Jupiter, a planet that's associated with justice and the legal system, the justice of Zeus, so to speak, conjoining Saturn in the fourth house of family is coinciding with a moment of justice for the family; we'll see what the outcome is, or for this person, I guess. But that makes a lot of sense that Jupiter would move into your fourth house and hit Saturn as it enters Taurus and that there would be the almost like excavating of old family karma and justice surrounding that good luck to you. That sounds like maybe there's something that could be very relieving about coming to a conclusion; whatever the outcome may be, at least there's a sense of having addressed it as fully as you could.

Anyway, here's one so Jupiter moves into Taurus. As I was signing my new lease yesterday, a notification from an astrology app that I use popped up and says Jupiter has moved into the fourth house, which is where the whole sign house of Taurus is located in this person's chart.

So Jupiter moves into their fourth house of home and property, and this person signed a new lease. Isn't that interesting? One enters the fourth house and hits Saturn, and you have this kind of karmic justice of an old abuse or trauma, and then you have another person with Jupiter moving into the fourth house and signing a new lease. It's just so amazing how you can see the topics manifesting in so many different ways.

Here's where we get into some of the heavier stuff Mars opposite Pluto; you might remember this as Mars moved into Leo and opposed Pluto and Aquarius. Yesterday at work, I had a strange guy come into my job and start talking to me, saying all sorts of crazy things. He said he had just got out of prison because he had slit someone's throat and a few other things. I tried to brush it off later. The same guy was in the lobby again and asked me to come to him because he needed to ask me something. I walked over, and he propositioned me, saying he would pay me to spend the night with him. I work at a hotel. I immediately said no and reported it to my general manager.

The GM went out to the lobby and asked this man to leave the property. The man did not want to go and was trying to negotiate his way into staying. Another guest was in the lobby and heard the whole thing and started yelling at the man to leave as well. So the guy leaves, or at least we thought he did.

About an hour or two later, I was standing outside the lobby and was having a conversation with another employee. After I walked back into the lobby, I realized my cell phone was missing. At first, I thought maybe I forgot to take it and set it down. But in my mind, I knew I had left it behind on the lobby desk and charging. The other employees started calling my phone so we could try to find it, in that same man answered my phone from his room.

He never left. He hid in his room and then snuck down to the lobby and stole my phone from behind the counter while I was right outside the lobby door. We told the man that he had stolen property that was mine. He wanted me to come up there to his room and get the phone from him. My general manager went to the room and said he said the guy was squatting down beside his door and was holding onto my phone, supposedly waiting for me.

Needless to say, we called the police, and they came out. They said they had been looking for the guy all morning. They stayed on the property looking for the man for a while. Eventually, he was arrested, but they didn't even take a statement from me, so I'm not 100% sure what he was actually arrested for.

Turns out this guy had been in the room for two days, and no one even knew he had been checked out of the system on the 16th but continued to stay in the room. I'm not even sure how that was possible since they walk the rooms and do inspections once people check out.

Thats spicy. Jeez, that is like about as Mars Pluto as it gets right there. I'm glad you're okay. But yeah, that's the real kind of dark, scary Mars-Pluto vibe. Mars-Jupiter Pluto T-square. I occasionally babysit for, and this was Jupiter in the mix of Mars-Pluto. I babysit occasionally for my fourth-grade teacher and his wife. This person is older now, so this is their former fourth-grade teacher. My parents became friends with him when I was in his class and maintained contact with him as I was growing up. We went to his wedding when I was 13. He came over for dinner with his wife. He was in a fantasy football league with my dad.

Life got busy. We lost contact with them at some point but reconnected two years ago when my dad was in the hospital because his wife happens to work there. I'm now in my early 20s, and they're in their early 40s. His wife was a huge support for us during that time, and after my dad passed away, they came to a celebration of life, and I met their two kids. After that, I started babysitting for them when they went out on date nights. Everything was always totally appropriate, and find zero red flags.

Well, his wife was out of town this weekend, and I babysat so he could go out with his friends. The whole vibe of his text was a little more playful than usual, but he has an expressive personality, and I didn't think much of it at first.

When he came back home, he said some things that threw me off, like suggesting the two of us should go out to dinner which I responded that my mom and I would love to get to dinner with him and his wife. At first, I tried convincing myself I was crazy or misinterpreting things. But the next day, he asked if I wanted to come over after the kids went to bed to watch a movie, his intentions were very clear. He's a fun, charismatic solar personality. He was my absolute favorite teacher in person as a kid.

I feel so disappointed. Like, I just found out Santa isn't real. This was an extremely bold and cocksure move on his part, considering I've never shown any indication I'm interested or attracted to him whatsoever. He's very loved and respected as a teacher and youth sports coach, and I can't believe he was totally willing to risk me telling his wife or ruining his reputation.

For now, I'm just ignoring the message and letting him sweat about it. Wow. First of all, I'm so sorry. That's such a disappointing experience, I'm sure, and yeah, I mean, the piece that strikes me there is Jupiter and Pluto, like Jupiter representing a teacher and Pluto that you know, exposing something of the darker shadow side and hopefully, you know that this will be a wake-up call for him. Hopefully, you're not responding will serve as a wake-up call, and hopefully, this kind of behavior ends, and he, you know, he and his wife can figure out what's going on because it's probably symptomatic of something at a deeper level that needs to be addressed. I would, I would imagine. Anyway, it's a very Jupiter, it's actually very Jupiter Pluto, but Mars in the mix of it's kind of bold and like shocking. Yeah.

Here's another Mars Pluto Jupiter. Incident at a school. My mother has been a teacher at the same school for almost 25 years for the first time in her career. During the peak of the Mars Jupiter Pluto transit, she got hit by a student. The student ended up saying that she hit him, and the mother is now demanding a full investigation which is her right.

Fortunately, there was a witness my mother would never strike another person, especially a child. I found it interesting this accusation happened during the peak of this Mars-Pluto Jupiter transit violence also took place between students at another local school during this transit. Wow. Yeah, I mean, it's interesting how Jupiter brings in that piece about teachers and education and corruption or violence or something like that.

Here's a Mars-Pluto situation again that's equally sort of disturbing. I'm visiting Chicago to celebrate my and my Taurus sister's birthday. As we were walking to dinner, we noticed a helicopter circling above. Seeing it and hearing it and feeling concerned. My sister notes the recent tough times in her neighborhood as crime has been on the rise. One block later, we passed a mama pushing a stroller with maybe seven kids, and still, their energy was clearly rattled and frantic we asked what was happening and if everyone was okay, and she reported that two blocks up, there had been a car chase and two police cars rammed the suspect's car from either end, the driver fled wielding a gun, and shooting began.

She immediately told the kids to run breathless and shaking; she said it was surreal, like a movie, as we processed the situation and calmed down. We noticed one of the little girls was wearing a birthday tiara. We wished her a happy birthday. I mentioned we also had two birthday Taureans in our crew. Mama was a Virgo, and it felt like we were able to able to anchor and ground our earth energy together after a very intense and traumatic situation. We basked in the beautiful greenery during golden hour and wished each other well while parting ways. It was a shared moment of community and connection that made us stronger through the medium of astrology. How's that?

Beautiful, that's how that is. I'm so touched that you guys could help someone ground and be a stabilizing presence, good Tauruses that you are, and that the kids also could have a little magical connection with their birthday. That's a beautiful story and also a traumatic one, and I'm glad that astrology could play a positive role.

Here's Venus opposite Pluto. This is my favorite of the group today. I don't know why I just liked this one so much. For this whole school year. My 16-year-old son has been arch enemies with his ex-girlfriend's best friend. They were saying such mean things to each other that the school had to order them to leave each other alone.

Last week they got into another huge argument that turned into a three-hour discussion, and now they're suddenly boyfriend-girlfriend spending all of their time together. Teenagers. That was Venus square Pluto. That is fantastic. I love that. I love that story so much. Such a Venus-Pluto story. This darkness turned attraction. Yeah.

Sun square Neptune. This one is intense. Today at work, a co-worker brought to my attention that there was a shooting nearby last night, which the police are looking into; he mentioned as a warning that it may or may not have involved our finance manager. Michael. I immediately rejected that idea, said it definitely could not be him, and changed the topic. A couple of hours later, my co-workers and I were called to a meeting that seemed really urgent. Everyone was gathered; our managers proceeded to tell us about the double homicide shooting in our town last night that had killed Mike and his wife.

I won't go through all the gory details because they're pretty graphic, but they were murdered in their car and ran out of the meeting as someone else was leaving, and the next thing I knew, I was on the bathroom floor having a panic attack, and flashbacks of what I had seen when I was six years old in the car with my three-year-old sister as our father was shot and killed.

While it was as though I was living in two timelines at once, I was my six-year-old self in the car experiencing the tragedy of watching my father get killed, and I was my 25-year-old self experiencing the tragedy of these children who watched their parents get killed. Two kids were in the back of the car when their parents were killed. The pain I was feeling was immeasurable. After 19 years, the pain is still there; it seems that I have only gotten better at repressing it. After all, can someone truly heal from a real-life nightmare? Once you lose a piece of yourself like that, can you ever be truly whole?

I pray for all the children who have grieved the loss of their parents, and I pray for the hurt child and you and me. Stay strong is an understatement. It gets better as an overstatement. RIP Mike, the kind man who made it his mission to spread joy and positivity every day in the workplace, RIP Britney's wife. Love for the children, and RIP Dad. Yeah, that's a hard one. I hope you're doing okay.

Here's the Mars Uranus Square kind of heavy, but my husband, my cousin, took his own life. My family was surprised. We had no idea he was struggling. The only thing that he felt right when I was when I found out was to mourn his loss with a bottle of wine alone. I wanted it to light a candle, and as I was striking the match, it exploded in a tiny flame shard that burned my hand in two places, twin marks that touch each other when I close my thumb and index finger hurt like hell.

But I proceeded to light the candle and drink the wine finishing the whole bottle. The next day I drove to visit my other cousin, the sister of my cousin who passed away. She told me what had happened. He had substance use disorder, and it had gotten so bad since the pandemic that it completely wrecked his health and life; he walked with a cane even though he was very young; he had pancreatitis, secondary diabetes, peripheral neuropathy, that his wife was going to leave him and he had lost his job.

I thought about that match striking that had exploded before I drank all that wine like a warning. My cousin and I have some striking similarities in our birth charts. I've been experimenting with getting sober over the past year but wavering for a while; I've had this gut feeling that it's something I need to do that I wasn't really sure why. Now I have these two burn scars on my hand. Reminder for my cousin to think of him and honor his memory and his mourning; this person is in one of our Nightlight programs, and he's decided to try sobriety now as a result of this, and that was a Mars Uranus transit. It's just striking. Mars-Uranus.

I was grabbed a bit this morning when I received a text from my neighbor with whom I have a bit of an up-and-down relationship. Out of the blue, she requested if we could both be tidier with things we leave outside our flat doors. Bear in mind she has a lot of toys and pots, and packages scattered around her side of the communal balcony. Previously I'd be writing apologetic text with a detailed explanation even when she was on the wrongdoing side.

However, this morning with no hesitation and very little thinking, I decided I couldn't give a dime about her hypocritical requests. I realized I've always helped her in the past, even lent her money, and felt taken for granted. So I stood my ground, texted a very short message, not apologizing, and said what I thought assertively; I felt irritated and, at the same time, empowered. I just didn't care about the consequences and found the word straight away. This was a shift. Normally I'd be fearful and more careful. Well, that Mars-Uranus can help you have a little breakthrough and where you need to be, maybe a little bit more assertive. It's amazing how strong you can feel when you take, you know, just take that risk that Mars-Uranus might be asking for.

Here's another Mars Uranus story. I've been pregnant since October, and I was due on June 30. So this one's hard. When I heard and reflected on the transit to Mars square Uranus, I immediately connected its energy to what would become my birth story. So during the Mars Uranus Square, they went into labor. Everything in my birthing process seemed perfect to what my midwife would call poetic. I wanted a natural birth and a tub on my land, all of which came to fruition. As the time came for the child to be delivered to the world and take his first breath, the lady, the little baby boy we would later call Giovanni, never did. His heart stopped beating, and he died before I pushed him out. The surprise, shock, and grief that has been taking place since this event has been life-changing, spiritual, and transformational.

We're going to let this person have the last word today. Through hardship, I truly see how one can grow; the planets always lead us, and I respect how you could see a transit coming and assume what it will be about, but you know, you never really know.

Although it's an event, I would never wish upon anyone. I see now that there are no bad events, the rather situations that bring us lessons. This lesson will always be remembered in my story. Thank you.

Really appreciate you and for all of you who shared. Thank you for sharing your hearts and souls. I love hearing your stories. I love laughing with them, crying with them. This is, I think, why we all come together to find astrology in our lives.

Although I wouldn't ever wish it upon anyone, she says I see how there are no bad events, situations that bring us lessons. Well, I hope you guys have a great weekend and that these stories will bring you right into the heart and soul of astrology and why we're here doing it together. All right. Take care, everyone. We'll see you again next week. Bye.