Parenting Tips for Libra Children

Hey everyone, this is Adam Elenbaas from Nightlight Astrology, and today we are resuming our series on parenting tips for each sign of the zodiac by taking a look at Libra children and some parenting tips for all of you who have Libra children. Now this could be kids who are Libra rising, kids who have a stellium of planets in Libra, Sun or Moon in Libra.

Really, it's just to help you understand that portion of the child's psyche that is Libra. In order to understand your own better and how you were raised, and what kinds of parenting you received or didn't receive. The kind that was helpful, the kind that wasn't so helpful. I think this series can really be for the inner child and all of us and as well as people who need some parenting tips.

For many years, I have occasionally done readings for people who asked me for advice on how to work with their kids and the Zodiac placements in their kid's charts. As a parent myself, I think this series is, you know, could be useful for anyone who's a new parent or another, whether your kids are grown or whether you want to reflect back on your own childhood.

So if you haven't seen all of the previous episodes, we've gone Aries up to Libra so far. We have the rest of the signs to go. But you could go back and listen to the previous signs if you want to hear what we've said already in the series.

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All right, well, we're going to talk about raising Libra children, or the Libra child within you, and how you were raised. Five parenting tips for Libra kids today. These are in no particular order. I don't like to rank them, you know, with the number one, or I just put five ways of supporting our Libra kids in this case. And I framed them all in terms of support. Here's what we want to support the development of most of the time; I think that what happens at least I see people coming into readings like this saying, How do I deal with this problem that my Leo has, or this problem that my Libra has or whatever.

The problem with framing our kids, astrological traits in terms of the problems with them and how to get them into almost like an optimal expression is that most of the time, the problem stems from our inability to understand the archetype and the archetype of the sign of the placement and what it's seeking to express, learn and explore throughout a lifetime.

Now, there's not just one thing that assigned means. It's like a bouquet of different archetypal ambitions that the sign represents that we want to explore throughout a lifetime, that the soul is needing to actualize itself as it explores a lifetime along the themes, archetypal themes of the sign.

So for Librans, the ones we're going to explore today, I've tried to break it down into five that I think are really, really important, sort of get to the heart of the sign of Libra, and how we can support these themes, and also how they can get distorted, and how we can reframe them or just help our kids make little adjustments, if necessary, but it all stems from understanding first, rather than thinking that there's a good and bad Libra or something like that.

Number one, support the exploration of fairness, beauty, and balance. This is a masculine Air sign, but also the sign of Venus. So Venus, Aphrodite, in the ancient world, was associated with justice, with fairness, with beauty. A lot of the time, people think of the goddess only in terms of, you know, sensual themes like touch and romance and love, and you know, the feeling of your bare feet on the earth and spring or something, you know, or the smell of an apple pie wafting through the air. These are the sort of quintessential worldly goddess themes.

But you have to remember that for the ancient Greeks, who, in by this the ancient Greek world that, practiced astrology, Venus was also associated with the kind of beauty that represents a well-ordered or well-arranged Cosmos; for example, there was a word in ancient Greek philosophy called Harmonia. And this is sort of loosely a Venusian word, and it means a well-arranged whole so that all of the parts are working together, almost like the study of Fung Shui or the study of Vaastu. In I think it's called Vaastu. In Indian philosophy, which is the study of how a room comes together to be both functionally and aesthetically whole, how is it serving the right flow and balance of energy for the right purpose of the room and so forth.

Venus was not just associated with sensual beauty, in other words, but with, almost like, an architectural beauty that was inherent in the cosmos itself. So, truth, beauty, balance, symmetry, and orderliness were all part of what Venus could potentially represent as the ruler of Harmonia. So Libra is a sign that embodies the sort of masculine Libra; it's a little bit more than masculine Venus in the sense that it's a little bit more abstract.

It's about do you, in an ideal sense, is everything balanced and beautiful, for example, the organization of society along moral, ethical, and legal lines that support fairness and equity and, you know, the equal rights and the upholding of the dignity of all beings, you know, in a sense of community, and beauty. This would also be Venusian, and this is very Libran.

So one of the things that Libran kids are exploring throughout their lifetime is the function and role of order, beauty, balance, and symmetry. So the need to organize one's life, environment to take a particular interest in the social dynamics of life and how they are arranged. That's key to how a Libran is understanding themselves and understanding their place and role in the world and understanding the world itself.

Now, one of the things that goes along with this is whether or not the level at which we are exploring those themes is merely superficial; it also gets into the heart of much more deep and penetrating themes. For example, the Libra is the sign that ushers us into the underworld of the solar year into the darkness and had associated with it the idea of judgment, the judgment of the soul upon death and entrance into the underworld.

Justice is often blindfolded. If you see the images of justice with the blindfold on personified. This image is really important because you could, for example, have Libran characteristics that are concerned with the arrangement of things that looks nice but in merely superficial ways or in ways that just reinforce vain self-interest. Does this look nice? You know, is this all arranged nicely, and I can't stand it if things look like they're out of order, or they don't look sort of pristine and perfect, socially, but that's not really balance. That's not really beauty. That's not really, you know, fairness in a sense.

So, one of the things that we're doing for Libran kids throughout a lifetime is we are helping them to explore themes of fairness, beauty, balance, but we're encouraging that to be something that's developed philosophically and morally. So that it has real depth to it, so it is quite natural for Libran. Children, as they go on throughout life, play around with different levels of what constitutes fair, beautiful, balanced, and orderly. Makeup would be one level of it, the social sense of cohesion in your social life at school could be another component. But we want as we, we don't want to.

For example, Libran kids might get more concerned with popularity and social poise and, you know, how nice does my social life look? Do I feel like I belonged, as you know, so, but at the end, so there could be a sense at which we start thinking, Oh, they're just they're concerned with the superficial appearance and whether things kind of look nice or not. But actually, it is very, very normal for the Libran lifetime to progress along those lines and to move from concerns that are somewhat superficial into deeper and deeper levels of what constitutes beauty and balance in the entire cosmos.

So Libra is a sign that is very natural for the 20s, the 30s, the 40s, and the teens to look very different in terms of what the concerns are when it comes to balance, beauty, orderliness, et cetera, and it progressively gets deeper because the sign as it progresses, when the sun is going through, it progressively gets darker and moving into the underworld. It is very, very normal and natural for there to be somewhat superficial topical concerns about how balanced; does my bedroom look nice. Does my makeup look nice? Are my friends, all my ducks all in a row socially.

As life goes on, when the soul starts to realize that this is just layer one, it will go deeper, and it will start asking deeper questions about what constitutes beauty and balance, and the vain, superficial piece will be replaced with a much deeper, more penetrating or probing interest in what constitutes beauty, balance, and order in the entire cosmos and within the soul as the metaphorical blindfold goes on.

So you have to support that process, and you can't tell a kid that they're superficial for caring about certain things because it is a path; it is a progressive incremental pathway. And if you try to force them to take to be concerned with things that are deeper before they've gotten there on their own, they will then take an interest in things in deeper things, but still on the same superficial level because they haven't walked down that descending staircase themself. So crucial to the process of deepening concerns about fairness, beauty, balance, etc., is the ability to move from topical things down the stairway into deeper, more unconscious, or mysterious things. Alright, so just remember that.

Number two is to support the gift of seeing both sides. Saturn is exulted in the sign of Libra, and Saturn was the ruler of oppositions; one of the things that is very common for Libra and kids to do is to find themselves in life sometimes in triangulation dynamics, where they will feel like they're in the middle of two people who have very different worlds that they live in. The Libran will often find themselves inhabiting one world and then inhabiting the other world.

For example, it's quite common. When Libran kids have parents that go through a divorce, that mom and dad's worlds will be very different. And they'll become very good at adjusting and acclimating and harmonizing with each world. But then what happens is that while the gift of being able to understand different dynamics socially and to be fluid and graceful, and their ability to adapt socially, which is a real Libran gift that we want to support, that that's something you always want to support is the ability that the Libran has to adapt socially.

The number three piece here that's really important is to support the process of choice. Because one of the things that can happen is if the Libran kids are inhabiting different worlds and adapting socially, there can also start to lack the development of an inner subjective core that's been defined by choices; I don't feel as identified with that world, or that space or this environment as I do this one. So you, we want to support the gift of adaptability and being able to adjust socially, which is a super amazing gift, and really take note of it and complement your Libran kids.

Wow, it's so amazing how you can adapt yourself from one space to the next and just fluidly harmonized so nicely. But we also want to support you; know what I really liked there; I could tell that you had to make a tough choice to define your own wants and interests, you know, when it might have been easier for you to adapt or harmonize in that situation and just do what you think might have been easier to fit in, or you don't want to ruffle any feathers, whatever.

But the ruffling of feathers, so to speak, through the process of choosing based on your own inner sense of orientation, that's the tipping of the scales that can be very uncomfortable for Librans. But I'm serious when you're Libra, and kids make a choice that is more about their own subjective needs, wants, and desires rather than harmonization. Even if it's a small one, you really, we really need to praise it; really good job. I know that it's tough to make big choices because I know that you're such an adaptable person who is so easy; it's like your musical instrument that can harmonize and just resonate with whatever's in the environment. So supporting the process of choice is a big deal for Libran kids.

Number four is supporting the acceptance of chaos. One of the things that can be harder for Librans is the presence of chaos, whether that's aesthetically or emotionally, or environmentally, and we want to almost just when chaos is stepping up, give our kids tools for not needing to organize it, or make something of it, or you know, immediately try to control it because this is a very controlled sign. It's a Venus ruled sign. But don't forget, it's the exultation of Saturn, and it's an Air sign. And so it well it looks very fluid and adaptable.

A lot of the way that Librans work is rooted in control, even if the control is like, musically speaking, to keep a beat, you know, or to, or to be constantly adjusting and harmonizing so that there's a feeling of order that's always present. But underneath this is one of life's most important missions for Librans, which is the encounters with chaos with the wild, feminine Yin, that is primordial and sort of disorganized but deeply fertile, and creative, but not yet controlled, not yet put into form, or tends to deconstruct form in favor of, you know, uncertainty and sort of a wild potentiality.

So, even when you see your Libran kids just going off script, allowing a little bit of creative chaos in or encountering and having a hard time, take a few extra beats to praise that acceptance of chaos or working with chaos or take a few extra beats to talk about what did that feel like to you? It's difficult not to feel like things are orderly, neat, beautiful, controlled, because just helping kids recognize that's the archetype that I work with, and so when it's not present in this maybe more chaotic spaces present, that's hard for me, just the awareness that that's a thing can be so liberating, can be so helpful.

A lot of what we deal with as creatures that live our lives by and live through archetypes is the inability to articulate that we're doing so that we are living with archetypes, and once you know that you are and you know what you like, and you can express when you're uncomfortable because something's falling out of sync with the archetypes you're familiar with; or that helps you stay sane. You immediately have a reflective space that's much healthier than just starting to spin out.

All archetypes relate to one another. So we can start asking how do chaos and order relate to one another. It turns out that chaos and order are always moving in and out of one another, and if a Libran can understand that and invite that into their life as a healthy part of the Harmonia, the greater cosmic order. It's a totally different story. Right? Because then it's in a sense, even though there's chaos, we understand chaos has a relationship to harmony. And that for most Librans, if we can start to work with that. That's doable, right? It's when we see chaos as a threat to order because we're unconscious of what we're working with and what we like, and what's uncomfortable for us. That's when it tends to be more problematic.

Well, last but not least, is to support the lightness of the heart. Remember in the Egyptian image of the underworld when the soul is being judged in the afterlife. This is a common image associated with Libra, and the balance in the scales of justice is that the heart is weighed against the feather. Well, there's no possible way a heart is going to be lighter than a feather. So we have to be talking about some esoteric principle.

One of the things that can happen with the Librans is that sense of there being a moral, spiritual, artistic, philosophical order, right? What we want is we want for that order to be noticed, appreciated part of life, but not one that is more primary and more important than the heart. Because at the end of the day, the beautiful arranged order of the cosmos; is here as a support for the heart and its life, its intimacy, its love, its creativity, it's learning, and growing.

The order supports the heart; the heart does not support or bow down to the order. It's the other way around. It has to be the other way around. We're putting the cart before the horse. So what we want to teach Librans is that this whole beautiful arrangement is there to facilitate lightheartedness. That with lightheartedness, all of the beauty and order is supporting intimacy, love, laughter, grace, curiosity, and intellectual brilliance. And it because all of that is actually coming from the seat of life itself, which is the heart, we want the heart on the scale to be lighter than a feather, and the feather is an instrument of air, right, and so all of the instruments of the mind that can help us to perceive and appreciate the order. Just as a trained musician who understands rhythms and musical scales and, and chord structures and progressions I'm thinking as a guitar player, right? You understand all of those things, but what did they do? They're not there to inhibit that the music is not subject to those things, right, the music comes through those things, and they are there to support the music, which ultimately always transcends those rules; those rules are in service to the expression of music itself, which is the soul just like the, it's like the soul moving and sound, you know, so the heart is in the soul are beings that are moving through a cosmos that gives form gives way for our expression to come through.

We have to make sure that we that with our Libran kids, we emphasize and help them see that all of this is to help facilitate. You don't want a party. That's so perfect that it leaves no room for the organic emergence of play and fun and intimacy and laughter and performance. You want a party that is well arranged so that it can support the emergence of all of those things and give rise to them and help be conducive to them. Right.

So ultimately, it's that little orientation. That is, you could say the whole Libran lifetime is about learning over and over again, and we can help facilitate that by emphasizing when there's lightness of heart, and when that priority is being hit. Really, really noticed that with your Libra and kids, so to speak. Now I say this as someone who grew up with a Jupiter-Saturn conjunction in Libra. That's my claim to Libra and fame. But I am not a Libran per se, and neither of my kids has strong Libra placements. So I find it interesting that there's, like in, I would say in, a constellation of my greater family in my wife's side of the family. There are some people who work in the law and the courts and the justice system and stuff like that, and there are a lot of Libran placements there too. So it's, it's interesting. I might have to spend some time talking to those family members on my wife's side and asking them about what was your experience growing up like as a Libra.

So anyway, I hope that this was useful for all of you, and I'd love to hear your feedback and your own thoughts and advice for Libra and parents or Libran children or the Libra child inside. This has been a fun series. I can't wait to keep going with it. We'll be looking at Scorpio next time, and I look forward to more soon. Take it easy, everyone. Bye.