Parenting Tips for Scorpio Children

Hey everyone, this is Adam Elenbaas from Nightlight Astrology. Today we are going to continue our series on Parenting Tips for all 12 signs of the Zodiac, and we're going to be looking at Scorpio today. So if you have Scorpio kids, a Scorpio son or daughter, whatever, that has a rising sign in Scorpio, sun or moon in Scorpio, a stellium in Scorpio, or if you want to reflect on your own inner Scorpianic child and how you were raised, and what your parents might have gotten right about what they might have missed or lost sight of.

I think this series is great for people not only who are parents but people who want to reflect more deeply on the archetypes of the sign and what kinds of support we all needed that we did or didn't get. When we got it, you can really tell, and when you didn't, you can really tell, and it just helps. So anyway, that's the purpose of this series. We're on Scorpio today; that's what we'll be looking at.

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So, at any rate, that is it for announcements today; like I said, we're going to be looking at five parenting tips for Scorpio kids; I put all of these in terms of support, support this support that because so many times what we think of is how to get a sign right? Well, if you're a Sagittarius, this is what you have to get right, and this is what you have to watch out for, and you know, like that.

I think every way in which the planets in the signs express themselves in our psychological day-to-day life is always in terms of what is at the core have that archetype, and if you understand what's at the core of that archetype, then when things go off track and maybe express themselves in somewhat more destructive or unhealthy ways. If you understand what's at the core, what are the core archetypal needs, desires, wishes, and ambitions, then you can understand how they sometimes get warped or twisted in ways that aren't so helpful. But that doesn't happen unless you start by acknowledging and supporting, and loving what is so beautiful about the sign and what it's trying to do for the soul.

So let's start with what I think these are in no particular order, but if I had to rank one of them at the top, I put this one for Scorpio kid's support depth. Scorpio is an autumnal sign that comes in the middle of the autumn, the yin half of the year after the Yin of the darkness is taken over within the 24-hour day, and we're driving down toward the darkest point of the year in a fixed watery a terminal sign that is the home of Mars and the fall of the moon.

So this is a place of the unconscious. This is a place of the primordial and the destructive and the libidinal and the chaotic and the magical Yin, and so the thing is, is that this is a sign that is just not satisfied with the cookie cutter, superficial BS, you know, and I know probably everyone listening to astrology would be like, well, that's me too, you know, but, I get it in a general way anyone who's spiritual or who, you know is interested in evolving healing, growing learning in this lifetime loving more profoundly, is not interested in superficial fluff. But if there is a sign that like embodies the need for life to be deep and profound, meaningful and true, and not fluffy, and not just rainbows and unicorns, it is Scorpio.

So, in your child, one of the things you have to do is don't try to make them happy, don't try to make them light, don't try to push them into something that feels less complicated. Think instead of Scorpio as a deep, dark interconnected tangly root system, but that those roots are medicinal. I'm thinking, for example, of black cohosh, a plant that we talked about recently, as an aligned plant for the lunar eclipse in Scorpio that we were working on within our roots and spheres, Moon circle.

The roots of black cohosh are thick and complicated, and they're medicinal. And so you think of, I also think of the Ayahuasca vine; the Ayahuasca plant is, you know, the medicine is made from a combination of a bark and a vine, and when you drink it, it's like, acrid. It tastes like sick earth or something. But then, you know, it has this profound healing effect.

Scorpio is an energy that, for a lot of people, doesn't taste very good going down. But if you get to know Scorpios, if you have Scorpio people in your life, it always feels good coming out, you know, like, the spaces you may go to with your Scorpios. It's like, oh, this is uncomfortable, but it's usually very good for you. So just remember that support depth, don't try to eliminate it don't get uncomfortable.

Most of the time, it's not the Scorpio kids are problematic; it's that we have problems with problems, and I reflect lately on the fact that so many people got so mad. And even I would say, ironically, hateful about my use of the word hate and five things I love and five things I hate, which I changed, because, you know, I don't care that much. Whatever the point was, I thought it was a decent point. But I just thought it was ironic that so many people will get so deeply offended by things that are dark or difficult or even words like hate.

But the discomfort we feel with that darkness or depth can't exist unless it has a place within us, you know. And so the thing is, is that if you're finding yourself uncomfortable around Scorpios, and then probably you're projecting a lot onto them, that's actually coming from you. So just a simple piece of advice, a simple, timeless classic for Scorpio kids support, depth, support depth in them in their interests in the way they see the world. Support it, don't judge it, just support it.

Number two is support detective work. I almost use the word suspicion because it'd be more provocative, you know. But the truth is that Scorpio is also it's a deep yin sign. It's autumnal. It has Mars as its ruler, and it is so familiar with the energy of disintegration and destruction; the light is falling apart, and we're getting into the death of the year. The thing is that because there's this naturally deconstructive sort of impermanence, just, it's just pervasive in the sign of Scorpio, the reality of impermanence, that Scorpios are naturally aware of the fault lines within or beneath things. You're lying. You're being superficial. I don't trust this; this doesn't feel right; why.

Now, sometimes you can't get down to the why. It's just instinctual. It's something you feel you check in with your body. And we don't want to get so into the way that we become paranoid or that we lack all trust whatsoever, and there's something we're going to say about trust later on also. But generally speaking, it is not a bad thing, an off-limits thing for people to have our Scorpio kids to have a natural awareness of where something is untrustworthy, or There's more than meets the eye, or someone isn't telling the truth, or there's something hidden, or there's a secret or not everything is being said and usually not always, Usually, they are right.

Now, there's a fine line between supporting detective work and supporting paranoia and some, you know, totally, you know, an inability to ever trust or just feel like, you can let things pass. The other thing you have to be aware of is the fact that sometimes they might be right that there's more than meets the eye in a situation. But because there's an inability to acknowledge that there's more than meets the eye, they'll then think that the thing that is more than meets the eye is 20 times bigger than it is. And it's not; it's actually pretty small. It doesn't mean it wasn't there, that they weren't right, and that there wasn't something there below the surface, but it's not as big as they thought it was.

So supporting detective work can take a little bit of fine-tuning to make sure the things that we recognize; we're not always right. Sometimes we can also amplify or distort things because of fear, paranoia, or because of being gaslit by other people; you end up thinking things are bigger than they are, doesn't mean there was nothing there. So support detective work.

Number three support catharsis. Some people get really uncomfortable with like, deep emotional conversations or sharing of complex quote unquote, negative, complicated complex, or quote unquote, negative emotions. Scorpio is needed. It's like water. It's like air. So there is nothing wrong with a whole, you know, kind of person, a whole group of people out there who need deep, profound difficult, I eat difficult conversations for breakfast kind of people, you know, these people from someone else's standard might be living in some kind of emergency room, and you're like, How can you live there, that's really stressful. But the cathartic, the purgative, the deep, the volcanic eruptive, those qualities are natural; there's nothing wrong with them.

So one of the things we can do for our kids who are Scorpios is if they have bigger, more intense, dramatic, complex, complicated sort of began, quote, unquote, negative emotional reactions, or thoughts or the need to penetrate or probe into things very deeply and have transformation come out of that experience. Not only is that natural, but that for Scorpios is, you know, like for Cancers giving or getting a hug, you know, so it's like, you just because some people may really be averse to how deep and sometimes painful and disturbing or uncomfortable those spaces are, doesn't mean that for entirely other groups of people, that it isn't actually healthy and productive.

So you just have to remember that and don't play the you're so dramatic thing to Scorpio kids. In a funny way, Leos and Scorpios have a lot in common in that respect. It's just that Leos have; I like to say that Leos have a sunshine kind of light, and Scorpios have a deep autumn kind of light, but it's still light. This is why sometimes you'll get the image of the phoenix rising from the ashes out of Scorpio because there's a quality of like nuclear power and explosiveness of light from within compact darkness, and it's a little sliver of light that can go boom. And that's, that's part of it's part of Scorpio that has to be honored. Anyway.

Number four is to support the exploration of taboo subjects. You know, this is gonna cause gonna come up. Now, Scorpio kids, because of their interest in taboo subjects, are sometimes going to get into situations where there are boundary problems. So you do have to be you have to be watchful about that. But also, there's nothing it's quite human, as far as I can tell, that kids will explore and test boundaries around sexuality at an early age, around the difference between adults and children, around the difference between, you know, what's appropriate or not in a given situation around taking things without asking or telling lies or keeping secrets.

I'll never forget when my daughter and I had a daddy-daughter night, and she's got Venus in Scorpio. And she was getting the opposition from Uranus in Taurus to her Venus in Scorpio. And it was just really funny because it was like exact, and she said, I want to tell you something they said what, and she said sometimes I take things like Like she said from other people no like in the house. Like like what she's like, like marshmallows and mommy's chocolate. So what do you do with it? Well, sometimes I eat it, and sometimes I hide it. And I was so it was so sweet. You know that she shared it with me. And I said well, you know it's good to have secrets; the soul needs secrets. But you can always tell us your secrets and, you know, kind of talking about dangerous secrets, and you know, but you have to be able to like to go into these taboo places that make you uncomfortable.

I remember, like, just to, I don't mean to rip on anybody, but I had lunch with someone one time, and they were, this is a friend, and I love this person. But they were saying that, like, their kid was asking about death and what happens after you die. And they were like; I don't know if I should, like, take him to see a therapist or what? And I was like; I just made the comment because he's my friend. And I, you know, he takes it the right way. I was like, Dude, that's just that's so human, man. Like, it's you don't have to you don't need a therapist, just talk to your kid about death like it's okay. And he was like, you don't think that there's something like morbid about I was like, No, you know, so and now he's just a little bit like, less comfortable for him to talk about those kinds of things with his kid, I guess.

My daughter, on the other hand, the one who has venus in Scorpio, I mean, she has been asking about death, the soul transplant; we talk about these things in our house, too. So it's maybe a little bit a little easier. But, like, you know, I just find that you can't; there's no subject that you should really just hands off avoid with Scorpios because there's something about the exploration of those territories that is fundamentally about feeling safer and feeling more content and at ease for Scorpios. But if there's something that can't be talked about, it's like, well, that's not enhancing trust for Scorpios in life and existence so much, you know. So, anyway,

Number five, support trust in light-heartedness. Now, I put this one in because, throughout all of this one, one thing that I see Scorpio kids struggling with sometimes is suspicion or distrust when it comes to things that really are light, simple, trustworthy, like Taurus, you know, like the polar opposite. So I think that we need to with every, all the deep, intense places that we go, we also need to be it's like a yin and yang dynamic, we also need to be constantly saying, sometimes things can be just easy, simple, fluid, flowing light, harmonious and if you don't know that these spaces aren't as interesting, deep and profound, you kind of have to offer that balance.

So that's my last piece of advice, and I hope that it was useful. I hope that you found this series useful so far. If you are the parent of a Scorpio kid, please share your stories, your wisdom, and your advice. We'd love to hear from you guys. Share your comments in the comments section. Again, if you want to find a transcript of today's talk, it's on the website nightlightastrology.com, where you can also learn more about the courses coming up in June; Horary also starts in June; I forgot to mention that earlier. I hope to see some of you in classes soon. I can't wait to read what you guys have to say about being parents of Scorpio children or your experience as a Scorpio kid at one point. What did your parents do? Well, what maybe could they have done, you know better? These talks can bring that kind of stuff up to Alright, that's it for today. We'll see you again tomorrow. Bye, everyone.