Venus Conjoins Neptune: Don’t Tell Me How to Fall in Love

Hey everyone, this is Adam Elenbaas from Nightlight Astrology. Today we're going to take a look at Venus conjunction with Neptune in the late degrees of Pisces. We're going to take a look at this from the standpoint of the major archetypal themes and significations that you may notice. More specifically, we're going to look at five unique healing thoughts or ideas that Venus-Neptune's conjunction may present us with or that we might meditate on right now.

So, it's kind of a way of getting into this archetypal combination that I think is really useful from time to time; it's always good to look at the planetary combinations and just get a feel for what the general blending of archetypes looks like in a conjunction like this. And then it's also good to sort of think about how our thoughts and ideas and how our worldview or our experiences are reflected by an archetypal combination or how they might be changed by an archetypal combination because ideas and thought forms are themselves archetypal.

And so one of the great things about transits is that they can reflect the ways in which we think and the ways the different options that we have in how we think about things, which sometimes we forget, oh, I have options in terms of the way the outlooks that I have and the ways that I think about life. So anyway, I think this will be fun. So that's what we're gonna do for today.

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Okay, so let us take a look now at the Venus-Neptune conjunction; we're going to consider five radical healing ideas and ways that we may shift our thoughts. So here is the conjunction. This is coming through April 3 Wednesday. You can feel this when it's about three degrees away, which means you could start feeling it about March 31. Then, we will give it about three more degrees that change signs by Friday, April 5. So you'll feel it especially right around there on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday of this week, the second, third, and fourth of April.

So, the major themes of Neptune, Venus, and Venus are exalted in Pisces, which is a very watery and feminine place for Venus. This is Jupiter's feminine domicile, and you will often find very uplifting and sort of philosophical, mystical, romantic, and imagined Venus in the sign, which is why people love Venus in pisces for that for those reasons Venus in pisces is compassionate, sensitive, romantic, imaginative, artistic, sensual, erotic. Just a very elevated and kind of, yeah, otherworldly Venus. Now, when she gets together with Neptune in that sign, of course, you're just amplifying a lot of the same themes. nodal nodal Neptune is subtle.

Okay, so, Neptune is subtle and timeless. Neptune points to the need for unity or oneness. Neptune is a planet of great healing and compassion, forgiveness, and surrender, but also intoxication, escapism, overwhelm, exhaustion, dissolution, dissolution meant you know, as well as things like illusion and deception. So, when Venus and Neptune get together, we have all of the, you know, super amplified spiritual, mystical, sensual, exotic qualities. It is like an otherworldly mystical spa; I think you guys have heard me describe Venus Neptune that way before, and you know, dipping your toes in the waters of Venus, Neptune can be very healing, whether you take an evening to paint or journal or make love with your lover, you know, this is a combination that can be it's about immersing yourself in this healing sensual, the healing and central waters of Venus Neptune.

So that is, you know, in that can play out in so many different ways depending on House location in your chart, maybe it's showing up in your career, maybe it's showing up, that healing energy is showing up around home and family. But the subtle and time the subtle and timeless dimensions of Venus and Neptune can really connect us with this, this feeling that we are connected to a beauty that transcends time and space. You think about the kind of Shakespearean quality of completely losing yourself like Romeo and Juliet, let's just say, without the tragedy. There can be some tragic dimensions to Venus and Neptune. Don't get me wrong, but yeah, so anyway.

So Venus and Neptune are, you know, something we should watch for in our experience right now. I mean, the on the sort of dark or dark, watch for illusions, delusions, and lack of groundedness. You know, seeing through rose-colored glasses, the tendency to get lost in fantasy, we made the distinction between imagination and fantasy that imagination is a fantasy that does not live in an ivory tower that has to live itself out in the world that has to participate in the world and has to at times has to move from this kind of reflective state of idealization into living states where the imagined becomes lived and you, you can't constantly be in a dissociated, romantic state of reflection. You have to be in the actual romance of living a life, and there's a back and forth between, you know, kind of imaginative reflection and engaged participation. So, that's Venus, Neptune, Venus, Neptune amplifies that dynamic and the tendency to split within that dynamic.

But today, aside from reminding ourselves about Venus, Neptune's significations are five healing ideas that come from the heart of Venus Neptune that I think we ought to consider because archetypes are also reflective of the way we think. And Venus Neptune will bring up some very specific themes and ways in which we tend to think about those themes. So that's what I want to explore next. All right, so five healing ideas or five ways in which we might think about or with or through the Venus-Neptune dynamic could be healing for us.

Number one on that list is that you don't have to be healed or whole to be loved. Venus-Neptune moves into love with a degree of surrender, compassion, forgiveness, and faith, especially in the sign of Pisces and Jupiter ruled sign that can be really refreshing. Now, I don't mean to pick on any, you know, ideas or just ideas they have; they almost always have times and places in which they are appropriate and, you know, circumstances in which they may not be appropriate. We tend to be so black and white about the ideas we embrace because, You know, they help us through a period of time in our life; they're necessary. They're there, the idea of the moment, and yet we end up making them into dogmas. They become inflexible and rigid.

So, one of the ideas that we carry around is that the more whole and complete I am, the more individualized I am spiritually and the more lovable I am. And, okay, right, we can all you know, we can relate to that, that we've become a better version of ourselves, we do some healing work, and it on that level, we become more attractive to other people, we become more whole, we become more attractive, the more whole and sort of luminous we are, the more lovable we are, there's something that's we can all relate to about these ideas.

However, the counter idea or the sort of, let's just like, push in the opposite direction, Venus, Neptune is also a transit that can say something to us, like, I love you, whether you are healed or whole or individualized or not. And we're meant to be loved along the way at every step of the way for who we are and where we are, spiritually, psychologically, you know, regardless of what we've realized or where we've arrived. And that is such a relief and such a release that we just don't need to keep pushing ourselves to think, well, I'm going to be left, or I'm not lovable until I've reached some state of having been healed. No. There's something like Kuan Yin, Bodhisattva, Christ-like about this transit that says, You are meant to be loved, regardless of how healed you are.

In fact, being loved is a part of how we heal. Because there's a grace and a mercy and compassion and a sense of seeing the best in us, that love being loved provides us with that, which is healing itself. There's this myth that we have to do all the healing work on our own within ourselves. It's just me and my healing work; I have to be the source of my own self-love. And yeah, all of that is true. All those ideas sort of serve a purpose, right? You can identify those ideas in your own life. For example, there have been times when I needed those ideas, or the opposite idea is that being loved is actually an incredibly important part of how we heal. It's not that we heal ourselves, and then we're able to be loved.

Number two, you don't have to be perfectly boundaried to be loved. Venus, Neptune works in the dissolution of boundaries, you know, quite regularly. That's a Neptunian signification. But Venus Neptune in Pisces in particular. It says something like, look, it's okay if you tend to be someone who identifies in and through relationships more than individuality and independence. I remember I read it recently because it was like all the rage, you know, Ashley, and I read a book on it; I forget what it was called. But it's about attachment theory and all the different styles of attachment that people have: secure, anxious, avoidant, all of these things; it was interesting. It was certainly interesting. And I would say, you know, earlier in my life, I certainly could identify with some of those styles in relationships that I had been in, you know, in my early 20s.

I'd like to think that Ashley and I are pretty secure at this point; we've had a long time to develop and grow to, you know, and there are times when you slide in and out of those attachment styles when things are stressful, I think. But one of the myths that exists out there that Venus and Neptune just love to defy is the myth that in order to be mature in love and relationships, you ought to be quite independent and individual. That's just not true.

There are so many of us who relate to being more independent, self-contained, and self-sufficient. And that's beautiful. There's nothing wrong with that. There's also absolutely nothing wrong with people who identify more with relationships with being in love with, being connected with, being affectionate with, holding hands with, talking with, being in friendship groups or friends, and having friends.

Pair bonding is an absolutely normal state of existence and experience. The universe is a relational matrix of being that is just, you know, people with beings. So there's this myth out there that you can't be loved or you can't be in love until you've really cultivated this strong sense that I don't need anyone, I don't need anything, I'm not a relational being, I'm an independent being.

Venus-Neptune says no, that's not true. There are some people who are just going to naturally gravitate toward relationships, which could be pets, people, kids, friends, or lovers, and you do not have to cultivate or develop some hyper-strong sense of individuality to be worthy of or to be in healthy relationships. You know, some people are just more relational than others. Of course, all the ideas about developing a strong sense of individuality have their place as well, especially when things become problematic because we're codependent or our attachment becomes problematic. We can't stand on our own, and it's debilitating in some way.

Okay, then, the ideas have a place, but you see, when they get so dogmatic, we forget that the other idea has a truth, and most ideas exist in dualities that ancient astrologers thought of as themselves archetypal. So, ideas, one idea, another idea, exist in archetypal dyads.

Number three, you don't have to be good on your own to be loved. There's this thing I remember, you know, in my 20s, there was, there's just a lot of rhetoric around people my age and their 20s at the time, who were like, I'm just working on being okay being alone. It's sort of similar to what we're saying in some of the other ideas we've presented so far, but it's this. It's this notion that until you've learned to live on your own for, like, maybe half a decade, and you've lived on your own, you've dated but not committed, you've not lived with anyone, you're sort of living your own life. At that point, then you'll be qualified.

So, all these ideas are similar. You see what I mean? Neptune, Venus says no, you don't have to be good on your own. In fact, if it hurts when you're on your own, if you deal with loneliness and romantic longing because you're on your own, that is actually normal and healthy because we are meant to love and live in harmony with each other in deep bonded connection with each other.

So Venus-Neptune, this is Venus Neptune's slogan, which is their shadows with Venus Neptune that have to do with attachment or connection, lack of boundaries, lack of personal healing, seeking salvation, and other people. And, of course, there are. But we always lean in that direction because we're just we've all drunk the Kool-Aid of individuality and sovereignty and personal power and so forth. So it's fun to push back in the opposite direction with archetypes sometimes.

Number four is that you don't have to repeat the past. Venus-Neptune is so deeply healing. And sometimes we find Venus-Neptune transits bringing us connection and healing, and then we go, ooh, should I trust this because in the past, it's always gone like this, and a radical Venus Neptune idea is that know this healing this beauty, this depth of connection that you're experiencing is because you've grown, it's because you don't have to repeat the past. And this is not a trap, you know.

Number five, you don't have to apologize for being romantic. This world absolutely loves to make us feel like, you know, being boundaries, being individual, being strong, being capable, being rational, being objective, having a healthy sense of detachment from things. All of this means personal strength, and that means you're lovable. Now, but you know, the other truth is that there are dreamers and romantics and artists and, you know, people who walk through the world hearing music, and it's okay to be that way. You don't have to apologize for being romantic.

Romantic doesn't mean that you lack grounding. You know, as long as you're not living, you know, in some completely dissociated state where you're unable to live a life. You know, being a romantic is a beautiful quality, not a problematic one, desiring contact, desiring touch, desiring connection, living in the realm of ideas and art, and wanting to bring those dimensions of life into your relationships and your job. And there's nothing wrong with any of those things. The world is not always hospitable to those things, but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. So don't apologize for being a romantic.

Venus-Neptune says being a romantic is one of the natural states of existence, just like it is to naturally desire love and connection to desire, dissolution, and melting into others as opposed to being so well boundary 24/7. You don't have to be good and perfectly individualized to be loved, you know, to be healed, to be loved. Love, in some ways, is the answer. You know, a lot of the time, it's not love. You know, make all of this personalized, individualized work, self-love; we call it just being self-loving. And it's good. It's good to be self-loving, right? I mean, you're all probably going like, yeah, like I've had to do some work to really take care of myself and to, you know, have a relationship with myself, and that's important. There's nothing wrong with that.

The other truth is that you know, we really starve without romance, love, and connection, and there's No, like self-love is great. But you know, other people, other beings, are, for most of us, necessary as well. So anyway, just a gentle pushing back in the opposite direction that you'll, you'll often hear these ideas about love that come up around Venus-Neptune, but they often because of the moment that we're in, you know, we're all sort of developing our individual avatars and so forth.

And we're developing our sovereignty and our power and our personal self-love and all this stuff, and it's good to push back in the opposite direction sometimes. Venus-Neptune is a good transit to do so for these particular ideas. So, I hope it was useful to experiment with this today. And you can, as always, leave a story if you have one. Use the hashtag #grabbed or email us your story, grabbed@nightlight astrology.com If you have a Venus-Neptune story to share this week

Stick around. After I sign off, you'll hear an interview that I did with Ashley about her upcoming herbal apprenticeship program. And don't forget Uranus in Love is coming up on April 18 would hope to let's see. I just put it so you can find that at nightlight astrology.com. And I hope to see you guys there. Alright, take it easy, everyone. Bye